Everything is Important

This last year I have been sorting and cleaning. Mostly going thru Kris’ stuff. Her art lockers, drawers and cubbies. I cleaned out a lot of odd things that she collected in the last 2 years…receipts, scraps of paper, pens, pencils, old business cards, scraps of material and several things that only made sense to her.

I found some things tho. Things that really showed me what was important to her. I found lots of writings and thoughts she has put to paper. Her thoughts are on everything from a formal journal to scraps of paper. Prayers for her family, insight to Scripture readings, random notes about something important at the time, half done art drawings, the list is endless.

Here is my predicament. What to keep, give away or throw away?

I am looking at things from her entire life. Pictures of her kids, yearbooks, junk, kids artwork, small scraps of ribbon, bags of stuff she kept for art, and so on. I have been trying to wrap my mind around a person’s entire life of collections…things important enough for her to keep, but some items don’t have any connection or meaning for me. She no longer knows what they mean or what they are…how do I decide what is important or not?

I have read some of her thoughts and come to tears, she is/was so thoughtful and deep in her writings, so raw at times. My favorites are about how she attached Scripture to gardening. And water, living water.

I have gathered every scrap of her writing the I can find. I have kept every picture she kept. I have squirreled away little mementoes that she squirreled away. I have tucked away jewelry that was important to her.

I am literally responsible for her collections, her memories, her keepsakes.

And, it’s all important.

10 thoughts on “Everything is Important

  1. This is beautiful. You opened your heart and shared your thoughts with all of us, which i know how hard this was. You will always have the memories and the memiries will keep you going at the hard times. A good thing to do with these items is to make them into photo books and make one for the families. Costco and walgreens do them and i would be glad to help you put together. Maybe kris would love to see it. Praying for all if you. God is good.

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  2. Dave you were destined to be her love. And now you are her ‘love’ keeper. You can’t do it wrong. There is no wrong. You are an awesome man. Glad to know you! Much love, Peg

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  3. This is beautiful. You opened your heart and shared your thoughts with all of us, which i know how hard this was. You will always have the memories and the memories will keep you going at the hard times. A good thing to do with these items is to make them into photo books and make one for the families. Costco and walgreens do them and i would be glad to help you put together. Maybe kris would love to see it. Praying for all of you. God is good.

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  4. Dave, this is beautiful and so powerful. I feel blessed to know you guys in good times and hard times. I am proud to call you family. Love you guys.

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  5. I remember when I first started walking with Kris. We went walking up Peacefully Valley (which is by the way….a very peaceful area). As we were walking one day, she stopped, laid her hand on some beautiful flowers, and prayed for them. Her prayer for them came from the depth of her heart. It was like the first time in my life, I realized the importance of the simple things in life are actually the most important things in life.

    As I run a business, the pressures I am under at times seems so unbearable. There is so many times I want three in the towel and forget it. When I had the opportunity to with walk with Kris, I realized how the simple things in life is what is important!!!!!!!!

    Dave thank you for allowing me to experience being with Kris. I had so many momenrs of awe and wonder. I love you guys so much!!!

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  6. I remember when I first started walking with Kris. We went walking up Peacefully Valley (which is by the way….a very peaceful area). As we were walking one day, she stopped, laid her hand on some beautiful wild flowers, and prayed for them. Her prayer for them came from the depth of her heart. It was like the first time in my life, I realized the importance of the simple things in life, are actually the most important things in life.

    As I run a business, the pressures I am under at times seems so unbearable. There is so many times, I want to throw in the towel and forget it. When I had the opportunity to walk with Kris, I realized how the simple things in life …..is what is important!!!!!!!!

    Dave, thank you for allowing me to experience being with Kris. I had so many momenrs of awe and wonder. I love you guys so much!!!

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  7. I can see how hard that must be to go through and decide, and I wish I could’ve gotten to know Kris better. I know of a company that can put art, writings, etc into a book for you so it’s all organized and in a special place. I’m sentimental, so I’d say that it’s all important and to keep it, save it for your kids, and eventually their kids. Her thoughts, art and writings are treasures.

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  8. Dave,
    Thank you for being brave enough to share your innermost thoughts, joys, fears, and intimate details with us. My heart aches for you two when you cross my mind and I pray for you both each time. I’m not sure I’m even close to understanding your life and what you’re going through right now but I know what I’m going through in mine and reading these posts gives me hope. Hope that God keeps us going daily. It gives me strength in some strange way. Anyway, thank you. Just a recommendation, try shadow boxes – they are a wonderful way to display Kris’ life, adventures, and memories for both of you to see. Get your family together and just soak in her life while creating them. Just an option.

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  9. Dave, I can not express how glad I am that Kris choose you. Thank you so much for being the man Kris always said you were. We are blessed to have you be there for Kris. Love you. Doris

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